Analyze this! November 29, 2007
Posted by yogaspell in Thoughts.trackback
Our family is going through a tough patch. Yogamum’s dad is in intensive care and we are all struggling with balancing the emotional side of things, trying to maintain a sense of stability for the kids, and what is the best use of our time and energy for the ultimate benefit of my father and mother in law.
When I first heard the news on Tuesday I told Yogamum that she could get on a plane to be with her dad the second she wanted. Not to worry, I would take care of things at home.
She decided to wait a little bit and see if we got more news, a prognosis of some sort. Last night she asked me again for my opinion on the subject and in the process of trying to balance things out I gave a cold and what I thought a balanced suggestion. Trying to be the stable figure and thinking that at some point she (and perhaps even with myself) would need to be there to relieve her mom and be there for as long as needed.
But at that moment she wasn’t looking for the balanced analytical partner, she was looking for her unconditional loving partner and it came out wrong. Way wrong!
There is a wide range of possibilities as to how all of this could pan out and being in two different states makes it hard for Yogamum and I to try to plan things. It is a control thing, and when you are about to unravel emotionally the last thing you need is someone analyzing contingencies.
I knew that…
Hugs and prayers. Namaste.
Awwww, you’re SO sweet! You didn’t have to do that. I was being irrational and oversensitive, and you were just trying to help. You are the best husband I could ever ask for, and I don’t mind saying so in front of the entire internet!!!!
No one can say the right thing all the time. I can tell she knows you love her…..this is a difficult emotional time. Don’t forget to take care of yourself, too.