Clichés galore… January 11, 2007
Posted by yogaspell in Thoughts.trackback
I’m sure you have heard them all. Probably used many of them. I’m talking about romantic clichés. I confess, I’m a hopeless romantic. I love lines like “you complete me” (or any variation on the other half theme) “I cannot live without you” (or any variation on needing), “You are my soul mate”, etc…. I’m also a very principled person so I have placed huge value on the commitment to the relationship.
Among many things, Yoga continues to teach me about attachment and about being in the present. Before Yoga I used to think that needing your partner, completing them, being committed to them, was the strength of my relationship with Yogamum.
It is so hard to let go. It reminds of that other great cliché “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it’s yours. If it doesn’t, it never was” Sting even wrote a song about it and there are tons of funny variations to it.
But to imagine waking up in the morning with absolutely no strings attached and to look at your partner with 100% freedom to leave with no guilt takes a little getting used to. It is somewhat impossible to do in real life. There are strings and there are consequences.
But isn’t that the biggest gift you can give someone? So I have one last cliché for you: “I’m with you today, because I choose to be.” What more could a yogi ask of his or her partner?
Beautiful and frightening all at the same time!
Wow. This is a great post. I’m a marriage counselor and I wish just a few of my clients could get this insight. So many problems are caused by that “fantasy” thinking. We all want the cliches but over time, the reality can be so much better!!
Glad to see you posting again!
so true..
bill harris (william harris) holosync http://www.centerpointe.com
is all about . i thrive on his thoughts
you choose~
you can prefer but if it doesnt go that way it IS OK!
what serves you will stay,what doesnt serve you will fall away..
watch with curiousity..watch why YOU..do what you do.. it is clear as can be !
Thank you, what a great perspective and it sounds like you and Yogamum have it all going on, for the right reasons. Gorgeous!
I think romantic clichés are good, but a person has to be persistent with them and sincerely.
Our thoughts change every minute, but the alive beings believe us from those words they hear from us. And if in the first moment we say romantic clichés and in the second moment we change our mood and say and do something bad, we will finish that those that listened to our romantic clichés begin to hate us….
This really is a good post. I really didn’t get this realization until after I started listening to Shinzen Young’s, “Science of Enlightenment”. Amazing program… if yoga were taught in school, I would say his course would be the prerequisite.